It never ceases to annoy me when people think that photos of their genitals should affect me so strongly that I would want to meet them. I mean, if I was linking up with someone online with a view to meeting that person face to face at some future point, I am expecting to meet a real breathing human being, a person who can hold a conversation and share a joke. I am not looking to meet his penis! It really sucks that on most gay dating sites, what one finds are photo after photo of male genitals. Its almost as if we need to be constantly reminded of what a penis looks like!
I think it comes down to the fact that many gay men feel debased by their homosexuality and subconsciously believe that high moral standards are not expected of them. It is one of the reasons why we find that the majority of gay men have no misgivings about being promiscuous. Gay men seem to think that because they're gay, they are of necessity less moral than others. And this appears to be more profound among Africans and those of African descent, many of who still believe that their homosexuality is wrong. Some even have feelings of shame and in the process suffer low self-esteem. I think this is unfortunate, because proud honourable gay men who wish to portray an image of respectability find that this is more difficult to do than it should be.