It was an absolutely brilliant day today. Last evening when we arranged to meet up at around noon today, neither Davis MacIyalla nor I knew how enjoyable our day together was to be. Unknown to me, Davis had arranged for a friend, Margaret, to join us, so it was three of us that set out on this remarkable outing. The usual thing as a time like this is to go for lunch, which is what we did, at this lovely place in Hendon that I introduced them to. The place in Tottenham that Davis had wanted to take us to was closed because its a bank holiday.
Margaret is a heterosexual African woman with adult children who are doing very well in their respective fields of endeavour. She came across as highly intelligent, was very articulate and she cares passionately enough about the plight of Africa and gay Africans in particular, to have become involved in the struggle for equality and recognition that gay Africans have on their hands. The discussion was lively and very interesting indeed and in the process, I gained an insight into the inner workings of the activist movement, something that I had always sought. I have been made to realise that I am in fact an activist myself and that I have been involved in gay activism without actually knowing it.
This company was exciting and invigorating, as we sat in a French bistro in Islington over glasses of wine, rubbing minds on the way forward in this struggle that we are all involved in. There was talk about the need for more material support for our brothers and sisters in Africa by Africans living in the West. The consensus was that many of us are shirking our responsibility to our brethren back in Africa and leaving the bulk of the work to Westerners, who because they are removed from the reality on the ground in Africa, are susceptible to scams by unscrupulous individuals. There was discussion about the situation in Africa, including the story of the Malawi gay couple, the anti-gay bill in Uganda and of the need for the empowerment (economic and otherwise) of same-gender loving African people. There were ideas and thoughts expressed, including the idea that gay people too can sometimes be guilty of intolerance and that more should be done to see that we are all-inclusive in our approach. So watch this space...
This is a photo of Davis taken this evening. I have his permission to use it.