Tuesday, 18 May 2010

I am in mourning

This evening, out of the blue came the shocking news that my much loved older sister passed away earlier today. I am devastated beyond words..

17 comments:

Loomnie said...

I am really very sorry to read this. Pele.

Akin said...

Hello Anengiyefa,

May I express my heartfelt condolences to you on the passing of your much beloved elder sister - may she rest in peace and the blessed memories of her keep you strong.

Akin

Lindsay said...

Oh Snap!

So so sorry dear! take care.

Tamaku said...

So sorry for your loss. Our thoughts are with you and your family during this time.

Anengiyefa said...

Loomnie, Akin, Lindsay and Tamaku, thanks guys for your kind words.

I am grateful for the few months last summer when Sis was present here in London. I believe I blogged about some of the events that occurred at the time we were together.

Since we lost our Mum more than 20 years ago, Sis as the oldest has been a mother to us the rest of my siblings, as well as being a wonderful mother to her own children. She was warm, gentle, kind-hearted and true. But at the same time she was dependable and was always there for each of us, a tower of strength. She was loved very much by those of us close to her and very well liked by all who knew her.

Its a bit strange that I speak of her in the past tense, since it was only last week as I stood waiting for a bus that my phone rang. It was Sis ringing to ask if I was okay. She was always so concerned about me, but I did not realise at the time that this would be the last time that I would hear her sweet voice. I have known pain before, but nothing like the pain that I feel now. I pray that the Almighty God grants me the grace to eventually become able to accept what has happened. But one thing I know for certain, life for me will never be the same again.

Haute Haiku said...

Sorry for your loss.
When a dear one dies it is time to celebrate them.

Best of luck

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry to read about your loss. Please accept my sincere condolences. My prayers and thoughts are with you and family

Anengiyefa said...

HH and Anon, thanks so much.

The full import of what has happened is heavy on my shoulders at the moment, but I am doing my best to continue normally with daily life, even as arrangements are being made for the final ceremonies. Thank you.

Malcolm said...

I want to express my deepest sympathies to you during this difficult time. I know what it is to lose a sibling that you love. I lost my brother in November 2008 to a sudden heart attack. My heart goes out to you. May God grant you strength!

Much love from Barbados.

Mama Shujaa said...

Anengiyefa - I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I recall your posts about events you attended with your late beloved sister. I pray that you are able to use those memories as a soft, warm, blanket, wrap yourself in them, feel her presence even as she has departed from this earth. Her spirit of kindness reverberates in you, as I have always sensed your warmth, kindness, and honesty, the African gentleman that you are.

Know that it will be a while before it stops hurting, it may never stop hurting, but the pain will become easier to handle. There will come a day when you will think of her without feeling the stab in your heart. And you will smile warmly, knowing that she would want you to be ok, just as she called to check on you a week ago, she wanted to know that you were ok.

Thinking of you, praying for you.

Mama Shujaa.

Ronald said...

Hi Anengiyefa my condolences to you at the loss of your big siz. Death does not say when its coming and we all have to be strong during the times for the people around you. God will provide you with another pillar to stand on he cares for his children and is always with them at every moment. Take heart bro

c'est moi said...

Oh dear!...Anengiyefa i'm just reading this right now...i am so sorry for your loss

Please accept my heartfelt condolences & may her soul rest in peace

Anonymous said...

hey, be strong. sorry for your loss

laBiscuitnapper said...

My condolences to you, brother. I am so sorry *hugs*.

Contra said...

am so sorry to hear the death of your sister my friend. am sure she is gone to a much better place with God. Take heart and be strong.

THERishouldbeAPY said...

I'm sorry I am just now seeing this... my deepest condolences to you and your family. Please know that though she is in the company of God, she will be with you always in your heart. Please take good care.... ♥

codliveroil said...

Anengiyefa,
I'm sad to hear of the distressing news you have received.

May God grant you the grace to bear this and allow your sister's soul to rest peacefully.