The Kalenjin people of East Africa, primarily living in Kenya's Rift Valley, are widely recognised for their polite, deliberate, and respectful communication style. In Kalenjin culture, speaking gently and avoiding unnecessary loudness or aggression is deeply tied to traditional values of humility, self-control, and respect for elders and the community.
This soft-spoken nature is often observed during social gatherings, traditional dispute resolutions, and everyday interactions, where active listening and maintaining harmony are highly prioritised.
I observed this softspoken nature and its impact, independent of having it confirmed to me after I had brought it up while expressing my observation in a conversation. I found the softspoken nature striking, coming from the background that I come from — softspoken is NOT what Nigerians (of all ethnicities) do.
I appreciated it, seeing it as a better alternative to the loud abrasiveness that one has been more exposed to. It is beautiful to watch, even if one does not understand the language. The deliberateness with which conflict is kept at bay and everyday interactions are conducted, and potential conflict situations resolved, all with polite comments and smiles.
I witnessed first-hand where a potential conflict situation was dissolved instantaneously. This was new to me, but this is just the way things are done here.
